Russian Women: Frequently Asked Questions
Communication with Russian women
- How many letters should I write?
- How do I write a good introductory letter?
- Can I write to more than one lady?
- Can I send my photo to a lady?
- Can I call her right away?
- I've heard that a lot of mail from the US goes missing. Is this true?
- What is the point of me sending a letter if I do not know if she understands English?
- I would like to write to some Russian ladies but I am not out to look for a wife immediately, rather a friend first and then see what happens. Do ladies expect more?
- All the indications are that I need to "act fast" when I find someone who appears to be a possibility. Does your advice imply that the best candidates are not available for very long? What kind of response can I hope for?
- Can a woman visit me first?
Russian Women
Q: How many letters should I write?
This is not a simple question.
Someone addresses a dating service for the first time, writes one letter, and end up with the wedding. Others might have lost the count to their letters and photos sent; they have tried writing to women from Moscow and the province, from Russia, Ukraine and Kazakhstan, but for some unknown reasons the correspondence halted after 2 to 5 letters. Others might have been even less lucky; to all their letters sent they have received replies where the ladies politely rejected them for one or another reason.
All those are the extreme possibilities. Getting 30-40% of positive responses is the normal statistics. If you are 30 to 35 years of age, you look nice, you are from the USA, Europe, Canada or Australia, you are likely to receive much more responses than a man of an older age or residing in a different country.
Thus, out of 10 Russian women you would write, in average:
- Two will not reply at all.
- One will send you an automatic notification like "Thank you for the e-mail! As soon as I get out of this business, I will definitely reply!"
- Two will tell you that you do not match them for one or another reason.
- With two others you will exchange 2-3 letters.
- With two others you will exchange 3-5 letters.
- With one lady out of 10 the correspondence has chances to become a success - if you follow a few simple rules.
Please see the page Secret of Success for more details.
Q: How do I write a good introductory letter?
Some gentlemen send their first message to the Russian lady of approximately this contents:
How do you think such letter can be replied? Personally I cannot think of anything except for a sarcastic saying, which I would not like to quote here.
In another case, a woman may receive a huge message composed with almost no paragraphs marked and abounding philosophic thoughts. Even if that letter were written in Russian, it would be difficult to read it to the end! Now let us imagine, the woman has placed her profile on 2 or 3 dating sites just recently and now she receives 10-12 letters each day.
Certainly, the guaranteed way is to use the special service. A professional interpreter will translate your introduction letter into Russian. The local courier will print out your pictures on a special photo printer and will deliver those to the lady along with your letter. Besides, the lady will be offered to reply in Russian and send the response with the same courier at any time. What do you think, would a lady refuse such introduction? I think this would impress anyone, even if she receives 50 letters each day.
If you would not like to trust to go-betweens, and you are positively sure in your abilities and personal charm, you have just one way to proceed: learn writing letters that Russian women would want to reply.
Do you understand the importance of the first letter?
Are you ready to follow my recommendations?
So, load the page Secret of Success for more details.
Q: Can I write to more than one lady?
A: Yes, you can buy contact details of as many ladies as you like (up to 30 sets).
Q: Can I send my photo to a lady?
A: Yes, you can send a lady any of your photos or whatever you like to send her.
Q: Can I call her right away?
A: You are able to call her right away any time.
However, it can happen that someone else would pick up the phone (for example, her mother, father, sister or brother), and it is quite possible that that person will not understand you at all. Also the girl herself may misunderstand you, even if she speaks not-so-bad English.
That is why it would be much better to appoint a phone call with the lady in advance, so that she could get ready for it.
Please, keep in your mind that she can be nervous during telephone conversation and it may be difficult for her to speak English. Also be prepared that you may not always understand her accent, and it would be even more difficult for her to understand yours. So, please, try to speak very slowly pronouncing every word distinctly and with certain intervals, which would help you to better understand each other.
If your conversation fails, do not get frustrated. In any case, you were able to hear her voice and make sure she is real.
Q: I've heard that a lot of mail from the US goes missing. Is this true?
A: That is true. We would recommend you to use only e-mail or any online communication (ICQ, Scype, etc)
Q: What is the point of me sending a letter if I do not know if she understands English?
A: Most girls are able to understand a short letter. Often they have helper or translation software.
Moreover, if lady is interested in your letter, she will do her best to understand what you are writing about, as well as in continuing learning English.
Q: I would like to write to some Russian ladies but I am not out to look for a wife immediately, rather a friend first and then see what happens. Do ladies expect more?
A: It is not easy to develop the relationship by means of correspondence, and it seems to be even more difficult than in real life.
Even if you start corresponding for the purpose of finding a life partner, it does not mean you will be able to find one immediately. Although sometimes such things can also happen. However, usually the relationships are developing in the natural manner: first letters, interests in common, mutual interests, good friendly relationships, meeting in person. All the following steps are up to you.
The ladies, too, realise very well that no letter (not even 5 letters) can mean a "future husband" yet.
Q: All the indications are that I need to "act fast" when I find someone who appears to be a possibility. Does your advice imply that the best candidates are not available for very long? What kind of response can I hope for?
A: This is not an easy question. On the one hand, if you see a "girl of your dream" on the catalogue, it is worthwhile to write her without delay, because it can happen that already on the next day she will receive a letter from someone else, who she may take as her soul mate and decide to take her profile off the catalogue.
On the other hand, there are women, who registered a year or even more than a year ago. Some girls place a new profile without delaying the existing one. Some girls remove their profiles and then register again in a while. In any case, the recent updates demonstrate that the girl did not make her final choice yet. Even if lady is corresponding with several men (as it usually happens on the first stages of establishing the relationship), there is usually someone "special one", who can alter in time. The "special one" takes the most attention and emotion.
What can make you become a "special one"? First of all, your nature, financial security and looks, while at the later stages it is the way you represents yourself and the way you feels about the woman and demonstrate your feelings to her. Many Russian women feel quite insecure, so the more attention your pay to a lady, the more priority you will most possibly have with her.
Q: Can a woman visit me first?
A: You can certainly offer a lady to come and see you in your home country first. However, you should keep in mind that she would almost have no chance to get a guest or tourist visa (especially to enter USA, Canada and some of the other countries).
The easiest kind of visa to get for a single young woman is fiancee visa. If you never met in person before, the lady will have no chance to get a fiancee visa. Therefore, the easiest way for you both would be to meet in one of the Russian cities. If it is a problem for you to travel to Russia, you can consider a possibility of meeting somewhere, where no permit to enter the country is required for Russians (such is Caribbean, etc.).
However, be careful if the girl is trying to convince you that she has some friends, who could help her to arrange the visa. It may occur that she simply wanted to derive some money from you.
Q: Why the majority of Russian women featured by agencies are looking for much older husbands?
A: It is true that many Russian ladies' profiles state that they do not mind meeting a man of much older age (a 25 years-old woman is usually looking for 25 to 45 years old man or does not specify any age limit). However, if you see an add, stating that a 25 young lady wants to meet a man of 40 to 60 years old something is definitely wrong.
Some of possible reasons for the Russian ladies to seemingly look for much older husbands are as follows:
- She did not specify age of a prospective partner in her application, because she did not think that it was important or simply missed to mention.
- The ad is placed by the fraud, who is focused on the most efficient category of candidates;
There still are some ladies, who sincerely wish to have much older husband. I think that 10 to 15 years difference is the maximum, otherwise there may problem occur at the later stages.
Q: I am in my 50's. What age group do you recommend I write to?
A: I would recommend you to look among 40 to 45 years old ladies or older.
Q: Can Russian women speak English?
Most of the russian women can speak more or less good English, and many of them continue learning English. In the big cities of Russia, such as Moscow, St. Petersburg, Kiev, etc., most women can speak good or excellent English.